Oh, the bride wants to have a destination wedding and needs you to fly out to look at beaches with her? Say it ain’t so! Even if your bride is not a jet-setter she may need your help looking at locations. You’re there to help her think of things she may not on her own. Example: Is there someplace for the grandparents to escape the sun if the wedding is outdoors? How are people going to get from the ceremony site to the reception location? Is parking going to be an issue? Does the location require you to use their caterer and photographer or will she be able to choose her own? Etc.
Pro-tip: There is a difference between thinking something is a bad idea for logistical reasons, like having the ceremony at the perfect little chapel that is 100 miles from the most Pinterest perfect reception site, and a bad idea because it is not how you would do it. Always give advice from a logistical place unless she asks otherwise. (Which she could as she chose you as her MoH for a reason.)
This is one of the HUGE wedding websites for bridesmaids as well as brides. Maybe you’ve heard your bride talk about it before. They offer a lot of different tools, everything from hosting wedding websites to showcasing vendors to holding forums for users to talk amongst themselves. While it clearly has a lot to offer brides, it’s also a great wedding website for bridesmaids/maids of honor.
Spoiler alert: There is no one-size-fits-all bridesmaid reaction. After the excitement wears off and reality sets in a number of things could happen. We all know people respond to stress in different ways; it’s part personality, part personal history and part situational. Some people ignore the stressor until it’s too late to deal with it (not recommended) while others overcompensate and try too hard. There’s a good in-between, I promise! I call it the Goldilocks Bridesmaid — you’re not too pushy, you’re not too aloof, you’re juuuuuuuust right. Before we get there, let’s look at the type of bridesmaid you want to avoid:
As we’re getting to be such good friends, internet, I feel comfortable admitting my biggest Maid of Honor mistake. I won’t lie to you, it wasn’t pretty. Discussing “missteps” is painful for everyone, but I am hopeful that in sharing this story it will prevent one of you from doing it in the future.
I’m fortunate that in my case the bride had a great sense of humor about it, she even laughed while it was happening, but it could have been bad. I mean, really bad…
Congratulations! It’s a huge honor to be asked to stand by your bride on her wedding day. Her wedding will be one of the most memorable (and expensive) days of her life. And she wants you to share it with her! Take a moment to dance it out (or internally squee if you’re in public) before you think about the things bridesmaids need to do. Pro-tip:Dance it out is a great way to handle stress throughout the wedding planning process. You will need more dance parties in the future. Like the great Christina Yang says, “dancing makes you brave!”