This is one of the HUGE wedding websites for bridesmaids as well as brides. Maybe you’ve heard your bride talk about it before. They offer a lot of different tools, everything from hosting wedding websites to showcasing vendors to holding forums for users to talk amongst themselves. While it clearly has a lot to offer brides, it’s also a great wedding website for bridesmaids/maids of honor.
Spoiler alert: There is no one-size-fits-all bridesmaid reaction. After the excitement wears off and reality sets in a number of things could happen. We all know people respond to stress in different ways; it’s part personality, part personal history and part situational. Some people ignore the stressor until it’s too late to deal with it (not recommended) while others overcompensate and try too hard. There’s a good in-between, I promise! I call it the Goldilocks Bridesmaid — you’re not too pushy, you’re not too aloof, you’re juuuuuuuust right. Before we get there, let’s look at the type of bridesmaid you want to avoid:
Congratulations! It’s a huge honor to be asked to stand by your bride on her wedding day. Her wedding will be one of the most memorable (and expensive) days of her life. And she wants you to share it with her! Take a moment to dance it out (or internally squee if you’re in public) before you think about the things bridesmaids need to do. Pro-tip:Dance it out is a great way to handle stress throughout the wedding planning process. You will need more dance parties in the future. Like the great Christina Yang says, “dancing makes you brave!”
If the bride wants you there at 8am to get your hair done and you’re not a morning person, hit Starbucks on the way and get there at 7:59. Why? Because you’re the best bridesmaid ever and you are prepared. You’re not going to be hungover and complain about the time (because you know to Don’t Be a Jerk). You’re going to arrive with your game face on because it’s her wedding day (even if the sun hasn’t risen yet). Because there’s always coffee. And maybe some mimosas. You could even come with a playlist loaded on your phone so everyone can be primp in style. Continue Reading
Preface: This is a long-form list that perhaps goes into too much detail (is there really such a thing as too much detail when you’e researching?)
1. Do your research
Timeline: Yesterday, today and tomorrow.
If you haven’t been in a wedding before you’ll feel more relaxed and less stressed if you have a handle on some things (like how a wedding shower is different from a bridal shower). In the long run being better informed will help your bride out too— you’ll be a great resource for her to bounce ideas off of or call for a second opinion. You won’t only be the best bridesmaid ever, you’ll be the Yoda of weddings.